Channeled Lessons in Psychic Development 4: On Wishing People Well When You Don’t Get Along (and Other Ways to Move from Fear to Love)
Any spiritual master or guide worth their salt
will encourage you to move away from fear and into love, while
emphasizing personal responsibility and free will. The basic polarity of
fear also encompasses the energies of anger, hatred, worry, anxiety,
jealousy, vindictiveness, pettiness, unfair judgment, competitiveness,
addiction, guilt, and feelings of inadequacy. Conversely,
the polarity of love will encompass the energies of gratitude, trust,
inspiration, excitement, joy, laughter, creativity, self-realization,
pleasure, compassion, integrity, forgiveness, magnanimity, kindness,
eloquence and gentleness, to name a few. Two of the most often repeated,
simple refrains I hear when speaking to my spirit guides are “Stop
worrying! Don’t answer fear. Please trust.” and “Love more. Forgive.”
The wonderful thing is that they are often able to frame those refrains
in a gentle, compassionate way that helps me sincerely transcend my
normal limitations when I find myself in an uncomfortable dynamic with
another person, without making me feel like I’m being gaslit or forcing
myself to “fake it ’til I make it.” The more we can release a need to
take on other people’s karma by hanging onto resentments, the easier it
is for us to move toward the higher vibrations encompassed by the
polarity of love that will not only make our lives much more enjoyable,
but also make it easier for us to open up to spirit.
How then do we move from fear to love in day-to-day disputes? We are only human. We all have histories of hurt, of embarrassment, of failure, or injustice, and sometimes our quarrels are justified from the point of view of our earthly life. Sometimes we just meet people whose defense mechanisms or temperaments rub up against our own, and we can’t help but get irritated.
While addressing some of the deeper individual or societal traumas we can face is beyond the scope of this post, there are some very useful concepts my guides have taught me that can help us in our day-to-day interactions when facing discord. (And remember, small successes lead to big success!)
On wishing people well when you can’t get along, Natalie says the following: Commit to never wishing anyone harm in your life, and your wisdom will flourish. If someone hurts you, and you can’t wish them well, wish for them to progress spiritually to the point where you could forgive them of your own accord. If after this thought exercise, you still can’t wish them well, avoid them until you can. Honestly assess where you are in this process, and take baby steps towards benevolence. Compassion towards yourself as well as the other party is key.
Never compete with anyone - focus on your own success, present and future. (This can be a hard one for us artists!)
If you find yourself wishing someone ill despite yourself, perhaps out of jealousy, and recognize feelings of guilt, do not dwell on it. Your honesty is a small victory in itself! Stop whatever you are thinking as soon as you can (preferably at once), and focus on counteracting those thoughts as strongly as possible by “crowding out” the negative energy with loving thoughts and blessings. If no physical harm has be done and no harsh words have been spoken, this should be enough to neutralize the lower vibration. However, if you really want to “seal the deal,” kind words spoken sincerely to the person will be even better. If harsh words have been spoken or physical harm has taken place, do whatever you can in addition to your spiritual work to set things right. Compassionate words and acts of kindness are great healers.
Every loss is an opportunity for growth. Try to see what the highest lesson is to take away from a given challenging situation, no matter how small or basic. This decreases the likelihood that the same lesson will repeat itself later in life. Examples of my recent lessons include: “choose your company carefully,” “stay true to yourself,” “do not feed discord with words,” “forgive people for their shortcomings, as they are on their own path,” and “do not mistake hard work for a strong direction, or worry for control.”
Natalie says, think of every morning as the start of a new life. Smile! Stop worry, fear and doubt today. Have faith that good change can come quickly. The more joyful you are, the harder a time unkind words will have latching onto your energy and dragging you down.
The more we move from fear to love, the swifter our energy moves to where it flows most easily and happily. Life becomes sweeter and easier. What tips do you have for keeping yourself in a state of loving kindness?
How then do we move from fear to love in day-to-day disputes? We are only human. We all have histories of hurt, of embarrassment, of failure, or injustice, and sometimes our quarrels are justified from the point of view of our earthly life. Sometimes we just meet people whose defense mechanisms or temperaments rub up against our own, and we can’t help but get irritated.
While addressing some of the deeper individual or societal traumas we can face is beyond the scope of this post, there are some very useful concepts my guides have taught me that can help us in our day-to-day interactions when facing discord. (And remember, small successes lead to big success!)
On wishing people well when you can’t get along, Natalie says the following: Commit to never wishing anyone harm in your life, and your wisdom will flourish. If someone hurts you, and you can’t wish them well, wish for them to progress spiritually to the point where you could forgive them of your own accord. If after this thought exercise, you still can’t wish them well, avoid them until you can. Honestly assess where you are in this process, and take baby steps towards benevolence. Compassion towards yourself as well as the other party is key.
Never compete with anyone - focus on your own success, present and future. (This can be a hard one for us artists!)
If you find yourself wishing someone ill despite yourself, perhaps out of jealousy, and recognize feelings of guilt, do not dwell on it. Your honesty is a small victory in itself! Stop whatever you are thinking as soon as you can (preferably at once), and focus on counteracting those thoughts as strongly as possible by “crowding out” the negative energy with loving thoughts and blessings. If no physical harm has be done and no harsh words have been spoken, this should be enough to neutralize the lower vibration. However, if you really want to “seal the deal,” kind words spoken sincerely to the person will be even better. If harsh words have been spoken or physical harm has taken place, do whatever you can in addition to your spiritual work to set things right. Compassionate words and acts of kindness are great healers.
Every loss is an opportunity for growth. Try to see what the highest lesson is to take away from a given challenging situation, no matter how small or basic. This decreases the likelihood that the same lesson will repeat itself later in life. Examples of my recent lessons include: “choose your company carefully,” “stay true to yourself,” “do not feed discord with words,” “forgive people for their shortcomings, as they are on their own path,” and “do not mistake hard work for a strong direction, or worry for control.”
Natalie says, think of every morning as the start of a new life. Smile! Stop worry, fear and doubt today. Have faith that good change can come quickly. The more joyful you are, the harder a time unkind words will have latching onto your energy and dragging you down.
The more we move from fear to love, the swifter our energy moves to where it flows most easily and happily. Life becomes sweeter and easier. What tips do you have for keeping yourself in a state of loving kindness?
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