The Guides Talk About Healing A Broken Heart

For Valentine’s Day today, I’d like to share some advice my guides have given me on how to heal yourself when your heart is broken. Relationships carry some of the biggest lessons on love when they fill our lives with companionship, and some of the strongest calls to grow in forgiveness and self-love when they end. For me, personally, as for many of us, they have brought some of the toughest challenges I have faced in my life.

The other day, I was talking to my guides about how hard a time I’ve been having getting over my most recent relationship and orienting myself to finding new love. While I don’t usually share advice that is this personal on my blog, I thought it might be nice for some of you out there, who might also be going through a difficult time, to hear some of the things they had to say. What I will share is a paraphrased version of my full channeling, as the raw material, as mentioned before, can sometimes come through sort of like quickly scribbled notes taken at a lecture. (The phrasing sometimes reminds me of Yoda, too…)  This time, it was my other main guide, Salvador, rather than Natalie, who came through with the most advice:

“Sometimes, you can get so comfortable in your  habitual thought patterns of misery, they become a safety blanket that you cling to out of fear. This needlessly saps your energy, and will eventually affect your health. It’s not worth it! Have the courage to shake yourself out of your self-defeating beliefs about your future, and free up your energy to dream up a new one for yourself.

Grow your energy through self-care, and by focusing on your true life purpose. Develop yourself in every way you can, and get to know your true desires. Do not succumb to jealousy, or feed into fearful feelings of lack. Be happy for other people, and focus on kindness. This, and forgiveness, will heal you. Because you are a seeker of truth, this difficult experience holds the potential for many wonderful lessons.

Great joy awaits you, even if you can’t see it yet. Be open to receiving the blessings that lie in store! Strive to know in your heart and mind that better futures than you ever imagined can and do exist. Own your desire for new love! Speak it into existence! Get inspired! Seek out enjoyment and pleasure. This is an opportunity to create something new.

Choose the objects of your attention, and your interests, wisely. When seeking a new partner, focus on your deepest values, honesty and respect. Your vitality will grow in proportion to how consciously you can direct your thoughts in a positive direction. Gain mastery over your feelings of fear. It may help you to realize that you need not even consider the object of your past affections, gone. In releasing him, you open up the possibility for an energy shift, and a return.

Seek out the company of friends who respect you and accept you at your most raw and honest. Do not be afraid to speak your truth.

Joy heals and opens up new vistas. Hope lives closer to fear than you think. Shift your attention to it, ease up on your need to control outcomes, and release expectations. Release the illusion that is doubt. Trust in the future,  and think positively about it. 

More than anything, fear and worry are your enemies that eat away at the energy of joy. Do not excite those feelings. Say goodbye! They freeze up the flow of changes that heal. Your psychic knowing and intelligence end where fear begins.

Also, do not underestimate the power of sex to heal the heart. Allow yourself to take pleasure in it, as the enjoyment attracts to you the energy of your next true love.”

Natalie’s closing words:

“Devote yourself to your life’s work. Wonderful joy and blessings await. Keep creating a happy life for yourself. It is easier to influence your future than you think!”

These are my guides' tips for healing a broken heart. Do they ring true for you? What ideas have most helped you through heartbreak?